Finding the Perfect Mix for a Blended Family

From eHow Family (By Shannon Philpott, an eHow Contributor):

Nathan Gehlert, a psychotherapist in Washington, D.C., recommends families have multiple conversations about concerns before the change actually happens.

"Often unknowingly, families strive for a sense of balance in the family system," Gehlert said. "When two families are brought together, there are lots of new variables in each family that will cause imbalance in the other family's system."

The imbalance may stem from a child's need to hang onto a certain mealtime or holiday tradition. It's important for parents to notice differences as they arise and discuss them openly with the entire family, Gehlert said.

"Parenting styles are one area where the parents need to try their best to be on the same page and present a united stance to their children," Gehlert said. "Then, listen to the children's reactions, express empathy for their feelings, and try to validate their perspective. While they may not agree or like the change, they will at least appreciate the compassion."

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